By MARY ANN GREIER
SALEM - Salem Women's Night Out speaker Judson Laipply provided a three-step formula for dealing with the unfairness of life: let it go; if you can't let it go, do something about it; if you can't let it go and won't do anything about it, just shut up and go away.
Carol Baillie of Salem relaxes as licensed massage therapist Charlene Mongold of Stephanie’s Hair and Nail Salon in Damascus gives her a quick massage during Women’s Night Out at the Salem Community Center Wednesday night. The salon was one of 72 vendors set up for the event, including some featuring makeup, jewelry, purses, services and even dog collars. (Salem News photoby Mary Ann Greier)
"There are going to be things that happen in your life that are out of your realm of control," he said.
A motivational comedian born in Ohio, Laipply travels the country delivering his message that "life is change," even illustrating the evolution of change through his Evolution of Dance, a hilarious 7 1/2 minute frenzy of moves showing how dance has changed over the past 50 years.
"I'm here to make you laugh and I'm here to make you think," he said.
The dance and some of his comments on life made everyone laugh, but likely made the 400-member audience think, too, about "letting it go" when something makes them angry or something's bugging them. He said a fundamental truth is "learning that life is change."
At those times when letting it go can't be done, he suggested doing something about whatever is causing the problem.
"Our choices influence our lives more than anything else," he said, adding our choices make us who we are and it's always easier to let someone fix the problem.
In the case of not letting go and not doing anything about whatever can't be let go, he said "then please just shut up and go away, because we're tired of listening."
He said people will complain about something and not do anything to change whatever they're complaining about. In that case, he said they're only adding to the problem and nobody wants to hear it.
He kicked off his talk with a discussion about "The Struggle Bus." That ride everyone takes now and then when nothing's going right and the brain's not functioning. He said nobody is perfect, but people can lead by example.
Laipply's presentation was preceded by a local version of "The View" and "The Talk" with a panel including Columbiana County Municipal Court Judge Carol Robb, Salem Community Hospital social worker Betsy Williams, SCH family practice physician Sarah Bendel, D.O., and nurse Andrea Corbisello, professor of nursing at Kent State University Salem Campus. Moderators were Danielle Cotterman and Lindsay McCoy, both reporters from WFMJ TV Channel 21.
The group hit on a number of topics such as portion control, foods to eat for good health, vitamins to take, dealing
with stress, exercising, heart disease and dealing with constantly changing technology, online learning and social media.
Both Robb and Williams said they had to learn to text to keep in touch with their children and most of the panelists agreed there's a downside to technology and the use of social media.
"Children aren't learning how to build relationships," Bendel said.
Other tidbits that came out of the panel included that 150 minutes of exercise a week is recommended, women tend to ignore their health symptoms for a longer period of time before doing anything, women play down pain and run themselves ragged and stress kills.
The point of the night was to give woman a night to relax and socialize, give them some tips for their health and raise money for the Children's Fitness Center and children's programming at the Salem Community Center. Changes were made to the format for the fourth annual Women's Night Out, with SCC Executive Director Heather Young saying they turned out to be changes for the better.
People had more time to socialize, to sit down and eat and have a good time.
"I'm just so happy they've all come out to support the event, support the community center and support the children in the community," she said.
The first three events raised $27,000 and she said she was hoping to hit the $40,000 mark with this year's festivities.
"We hope to see everybody back next year," she said.
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